Opinion: how mothers like Zodwa are getting it wrong with their girl child

Gomora on mzansi magic is on its third season although the storyline isn’t as well written compared to the first and last seasons however the show still manages to be relevant and educational. On the recent storyline of Sbongile and Zodwa they are at loggerheads over Sbongile’s sugar daddy. Sbongile is seeing a man who is old enough to be her father and showers her with gifts, the man acts more like he owns her rather than her boyfriend.

 

 

 

 

Firstly although Sbongile might be an A student however she’s still a naive 16 year old. There’s absolutely no doubt that Zodwa loves Sbongile and percieves her as her own child infact that’s why she’s fighting her this much, however her love for Sbongile is what’s driving Sbongile to the sugar daddy.

Mr Lebalo is taking advantage of a disadvantaged 16 year old girl coming from a poor background. There’s no way Zodwa can afford half of the things this man is giving to this little girl, however there are ways of winning her over than insulting her.

All Mr Lebalo is giving to Sbongile is materials however her family can give her more than he can and has and that is love. Zodwa needs to start doing fun things with Sbongile. Discover who Sbongile is what does she like, her interest her favourite meal her favourite book.

Not only poverty made Sbongile an easy target but Mr Lebalo saw that Sbongile comes from a broken home. It absolutely makes no sense that Zodwa would tell Sbongile how bad and thrash she is while Mr Lebalo would tell her what a princess she is, who will she believe? The one who treats her like thrash and calls her it or the one that treats her like a princess and calls her it?.

Zodwa doesn’t have Mr Lebalo’s resources but has shown Sbongile love more than anyone else has ever done. Mothers need to create a friendship kind of relationship with their children, make them trust you with their vulnerability, don’t judge them listern to what they have to say.

Obviously as a mother you will never be the only influence in your childs life however you can try to be majority. Zodwa is only losing Sbongile so are other mothers in mzansi with this kind of behaviour. The enemy isn’t your own child.