Your life situation is not your life. Your current life situation is just a temporary phase in your life. Although it might not be the shiniest RIGHT NOW, it still is possible to change it.

 

I believe that we only get depressed and worried about the future when we force ourselves into believing that whatever our life is like right now, it might be this way for the rest of our life. And when we realize that the current situation might not be totally like we wish it to be, and we believe that it is permanent, that is when depression and sadness comes into your life. Most of the time we just don’t know how to break out of it. We see no options and no alternatives and that might be the reason why we falsely think that whatever unwanted scenario we find ourselves in, is permanent and will never change. But this is not true.

You can always change. The problem with a lot of people though is, that they want rapid and instant change. They want to flip it around and at best it should happen right now. They want some magic formula that guarantees them instant gratification and success. But this is not how life works. When we find ourselves motivated to turn our life around, at first we might be super enthusiastic and take some initial action. But sooner or later we might watch ourselves and still see no results. Our belief in the possible (positive) outcome of our actions gets destroyed and we might stop the action that is required to change. It is because we stop too early that we see no (visible) changes yet.

Your life situation is a lagging indicator of the quality of your actions as I wrote once, but the problem is that we might stop too early so that we will never see the benefits of our actions. The longer you went in a “wrong” direction the more you have to go the different direction again to see the benefits, or else you will judge the direction you are heading in your life as just a little less “wrong”.