This week on Dloz’lami we met a family so disjointed that not even Thembi could fix them up once again. Usually there is a positive spin on the ending but this time we were lucky no one dropped dead onto the ground.
The intensity was made worse by the terrible parenting knew of the guests was accused of

Minah is a married woman who sent her childre to live in the house her mother inhabited. She did this presumably after marriage and has since abandoned the need to be an active parent in their lives. Her lack of discipline and honesty has resulted in her son resorting to alcohol. After trying to walk out of their session he came back into it and spoke his mind.

He revealed, with the help of the ancestors, that his mothers husband was abusive to him. She had taken him to her mother house and it wasn’t any better for him. He wanted to know more about his father and was suffering from alcoholism due to the stress and pressure of the situation.

He was supported by Minah’s mother, Jane, who came back to the center stage. She called out her reckless daughter, saying, “Minah, you’re failing your kids, you’re not raising them well.” This was such an embarrassing moment. I wanted to crawl and hide on her behalf. But it seemed to be the honest truth where her children were concerned.

Personal Thoughts

I think we don’t talk enough about the shortfalls of mothers. This is probably because they are in most cases, the ones who choose to stay and raise their children. But not all mothers are pure or have good intentions. Minah clearly prioritizes her married life and fighting over the Dube house. It is such a shame that her son has to resort to alcohol to feel better. He is struggling. Her daughter is also struggling. This looks like intentional neglect.

Being a parent doesn’t just mean the aesthetics only. It’s being honest with your children even about the things that hurt you. Minah clearly has never done this. It takes more than keeping children alive to be considered a parent. The emotional and mental aspect also matters. I hope parents these days know this.

 

 

 

 
What do you think of Minah’s parenting? Let me know in the comments…💬

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