This week on Dloz’lami we met an angry ancestor who was furious with this son-in-law and wouldn’t let a little thing like being dead get in the way of that. He fought for the dignity of his daughter with great passion and in the end, humbled his unfaithful son-in-law, Thabiso.
I loved that he was able to come through and speak for his daughter who wasn’t present

 

 

 

Thabiso wrote to the show and his problem differed slightly from the usual guests. We always get people who are struggling with stagnancy in their lives. However Thabiso was suffering because his family was coming apart at the seams and he couldn’t find way to fix it.

His father-in-law was peeved, rattling off about how Thabiso had made huge promises to him about keeping his daughter safe and he had failed her. How had he done this? By bringing home a discordant “muthi” that was hurting her. His father-in law was NOT easily placated by his meager attempts. I could relate, I was shaking my head the whole time.

Thabiso was made to write a letter in front of the ancestors to appease them but his lack of effort seemed to make it worse. Even as he read it, I wasn’t moved by his words. He needed to show more regret about his decision, because that’s what cheating is, a decision.

Personal Thoughts
It irks me that men think cheating should be a forgivable offense, it really isn’t. It represents broke trust and that is unacceptable to me. I will say though that Thabiso’s wife has the best ancestors by her side. Her father was fighting tooth and nail for her without wavering. It makes sense that he would, we all know ancestors are own angels and her father is the brightest one.

All this to say that more women should normalize leaving cheating men. Cheating means that someone you trusted took that good intention and threw it away. It shouldn’t be that easy to move forward from.

What do you think? Let me know in the comments…💬

Thank you for your time!