Monde, Gogo Skhotheni’s second husband, joined her family nearly nine months ago, and it has not been an easy transition for her, her first husband, and her mother, who do not understand her decision.
I feel like my mother, she felt embarrassed when she was my mother. She’s not buying it until today.
“I’ve never disrespected her in any way, so I believe she’ll understand as time passes.” Monde is not going anywhere. They are very fond of Monde at home, they adore him, so I believe she will accept in time,” she tells
It was difficult for her to adjust to the new dynamics of her relationship, especially since she had never heard of a sangoma pursuing polyandry.
“Nothing like this has ever happened before.” I’ve also never heard of any sangoma going through it, so it’s all new to me. It’s not without its difficulties, but I’m learning a lot every day.”
While facing backlash on social media, Gogo Skhotheni says she is up for the challenge even though her arrangement is unusual.
“I’ve asked [my ancestors] what else I can do besides this, but it’s clear that it’s not working because they keep telling me the same thing.”
“I figured, why not?” Why can’t I accept this too? Even if it appears strange to some, I will go ahead and do it. I know it won’t make sense, but why should it make sense to people who won’t live that life if it makes sense to me?”
According to the reality TV star, her two husbands are here to stay.
Gogo Skhotheni claims she performed a ritual to ensure their love endures. This was before she admitted to giving her second husband isdliso.
“I had to [give him isdliso] because he was jealous, I had to calm him down so he could understand that I still call the shots… They also have to get along, which I can’t do without using umuthi at the end of the day.
“It’s not about starting new love; it’s about ukwandisa (strengthening) the love that already exists, and you’re just adding spice to it.” It’s like cooking meat and then seasoning it.”
“You’re putting a stamp on it to ensure it’s a once-in-a-lifetime thing because I don’t want to leave it. It’s not like you’re giving someone something they don’t already have; they have that love, but you strengthen it so it doesn’t fade.”
Skhotheni praised her abilities as well.
“Sangomas are different, but you don’t have to renew mine. It will last forever. That is why, when you do it, you should make sure who you are doing it with and that you truly love that person and want to spend the rest of your life with them. You don’t have to renew it because it’s in your blood.”
She admits that her partners were unaware of her practice